When You Realise You’re Not the Same Person Anymore
There comes a time in all our lives when we wake up and sense: I am different now. The dreams I carried, the relationships I invested in, the way I show up in the world — some of those no longer fit the person I’m becoming.
It can feel disorienting. You might question your decisions, feel guilt or shame, or worry you’re being selfish. And yet, this shift rarely signals something wrong. It often tells you: your inner life is changing. And your outer life needs to catch up.
Here’s how you can lean into that change.
1. Accept that change is part of your soul’s unfolding
One of the most painful illusions is believing you should always feel “settled” or “complete.” In truth, our hearts grow. Our perspectives widen. What felt nourishing yesterday may feel stale or constraining now.
When you face restlessness, resistance, or a sense that something is off, try saying to yourself:
“I’m not broken. I’m evolving.”
This shift in self-talk opens up space for compassion rather than judgment.
2. Look back and see what’s changing
Transitions don’t often come from nowhere. They tend to begin around certain events or inner awakenings. I call these turning points. They might be:
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A loss — someone close to you, or some part of your identity
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An illness, or a health challenge
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A deep conversation, a spiritual crisis, or therapy/inner work
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The birth of a child, or stepping into a new role
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Exposure to new ideas or a community that shifts your worldview
When you map out your life, those moments often cluster around when your old values began to feel too narrow. For me personally, a few losses and health scares cracked open the shell I’d been living in.
Once you detect those turning points, you can see that your dissatisfaction isn’t random. It’s part of your soul pointing you toward growth.
3. Let your new values become your compass
When you sense a new direction emerging, the next challenge is letting it guide your choices. But that kind of listening is rarely smooth — it takes courage.
Here’s what helps:
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Name the values you feel drawn toward now (for example: connection, authenticity, rest, creativity, service).
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Imagine a version of life aligned with those values — what does a day look like? What relationships, work or pace would you choose?
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Take small steps — not giant leaps. Maybe it means setting boundaries, reducing something that no longer feels right, or experimenting with a new pursuit.
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Be willing to let go of things that no longer serve you, even if they were once sacred. Sometimes, we cling out of fear rather than love.
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Expect resistance — from within, from others, from your inner critic. That’s normal. Keep returning to your vision.
Over time, you’ll start to see how your outer life can come into harmony with your inner truth.
4. Be patient with the grief of leaving behind
One of the hardest parts of evolution is there is loss in change. Even if you’re moving toward something more alive, you’ll likely mourn what you once had — the relationships, the version of yourself, the sense of safety.
Don’t rush the grief. Let yourself feel nostalgic, sad, uncertain. Write letters, talk to trusted friends or a therapist, create rituals to let go (burning old journals, symbolically closing chapters). These acts help you clear space for what’s next.
5. Keep your vision alive as your anchor
When you feel lost or scared, return to the question:
“What kind of life do I want now — one that honours who I am becoming?”
Hold that vision tenderly. Sketch it. Revisit it. Let it protect you from drifting back into old patterns.
The journey isn’t simple. But stepping into a life more aligned with your evolving soul is one of the bravest, most healing things you can do.
If you’re going through a shift right now and want support listening to what life is asking of you, I’d be honoured to walk beside you (whether in a coaching call, workshop or session).
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When You Realise You’re Not the Same Person Anymore
There comes a time in all our lives when we wake up and sense: I am different now. The dreams I carried, the relationships I invested in, the way I show up in the world — some of those no longer fit the person I’m becoming.
It can feel unsettling. You might question your decisions, feel guilt or shame, or worry you’re being selfish. And yet, this shift rarely signals something wrong. More often, it means your inner life is changing, and your outer life needs to catch up.
For many of my clients here in Galway and across the West of Ireland, these turning points spark the journey into personal development courses or one-to-one support. Growth isn’t always comfortable, but it’s deeply human.
1. Accept that change is part of your soul’s unfolding
One of the most painful illusions is believing you should always feel “settled” or “complete.” In truth, our hearts grow. Our perspectives widen. What felt nourishing yesterday may feel stale or constraining now.
When you face restlessness, resistance, or a sense that something is off, try saying to yourself:
“I’m not broken. I’m evolving.”
This shift in self-talk creates space for compassion rather than judgment. It’s also the starting point of many personal growth programmes in Ireland — recognising that change isn’t failure but progress.
2. Look back and see what’s changing
Transitions don’t often come from nowhere. They tend to begin around certain events or inner awakenings. I call these turning points. They might be:
-
A loss — someone close to you, or some part of your identity
-
An illness, or a health challenge
-
A deep conversation, a spiritual crisis, or therapy/inner work
-
The birth of a child, or stepping into a new role
-
Exposure to new ideas or a community that shifts your worldview
When you map out your life, those moments often cluster around when your old values began to feel too narrow. For many in Ireland’s West coast communities, these shifts bring people to explore coaching, workshops, or personal development courses in Galway where they can reflect in a safe, supportive space.
3. Let your new values become your compass
When you sense a new direction emerging, the next challenge is letting it guide your choices. That takes courage.
Here’s what helps:
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Name the values you feel drawn toward now (connection, authenticity, rest, creativity, service).
-
Imagine a version of life aligned with those values — what would your day look like?
-
Take small steps — not giant leaps. Maybe it means setting boundaries, reducing what no longer feels right, or experimenting with a new pursuit.
-
Be willing to let go of things that no longer serve you, even if they were once sacred.
-
Expect resistance — from within, from others, from your inner critic. That’s normal. Keep returning to your vision.
Over time, you’ll start to see how your outer life can come into harmony with your inner truth. This is the kind of guided work we explore together in Healing Lives’ Galway-based personal development courses.
4. Be patient with the grief of leaving behind
One of the hardest parts of evolution is that there is loss in change. Even if you’re moving toward something more alive, you’ll likely mourn what you once had — the relationships, the version of yourself, the sense of safety.
Don’t rush the grief. Let yourself feel nostalgic, sad, uncertain. Write letters, talk to friends, or journal. Healing doesn’t mean ignoring loss — it means making space for it while still moving forward.
Finding support in Galway and the West of Ireland
If you’re going through a transition and wondering how to move forward, know that you don’t have to do it alone. At Healing Lives in Galway, I offer personal development courses and workshops across the West of Ireland. These spaces allow you to reconnect with yourself, gain clarity, and build the confidence to create a life that matches the person you are becoming.
Change can feel daunting, but with guidance and community, it can also feel deeply empowering.